Is your toddler starting school soon? The first day of preschool is a major milestone — and it can bring big emotions for both toddlers and parents. But with a little preparation, you can help your child feel confident, excited, and ready for this next big step.
In this guide, we’re sharing 5 expert-approved tips to prepare your toddler or preschooler for school , plus ideas for building morning routines, managing separation anxiety, and packing their essentials (including toddler-sized backpacks and bento lunch boxes!).
Why Is Preschool Preparation So Important?
Starting school for the first time can feel overwhelming — new people, new spaces, and a brand-new routine. When toddlers know what to expect and feel supported at home, they’re more likely to:
Adjust to separation from caregivers
Follow classroom routines with confidence
Build friendships and social skills
Start the day with less stress and more joy
5 Ways to Prepare Your Toddler for the First Day of Preschool
1. Talk Positively About School
Start introducing the idea of school weeks before it begins. Read books about preschool, talk about what their day might look like, and get them excited by saying things like:
“You’ll get to play with new friends!”
“Your teacher will read fun stories and help you learn.”
Keep it positive and simple, especially if your child is nervous.
2. Visit the School (If You Can)
If your preschool offers an open house or orientation, take advantage of it. Letting your child see their classroom, playground, and even meet their teacher can make the first day feel more familiar and less intimidating.
Even looking at photos of the school online can help toddlers visualize what’s coming.
3. Practice Separation and Independence
Separation anxiety is common in toddlers — even if they’ve been in daycare before. In the weeks before preschool starts, try practicing short periods apart. Drop them off with a grandparent or babysitter and give a cheerful, brief goodbye.
Let them know:
Where you’re going
When you’ll be back
That their teacher will help them while you’re away
Avoid sneaking out — it can make toddlers feel more anxious.
4. Create a Preschool Morning Routine
Start adjusting your child’s schedule 1–2 weeks before school starts. That includes:
A consistent bedtime and wake-up time
Getting dressed right after waking
Eating a healthy breakfast
Packing their backpack together
Routines help toddlers feel secure and reduce morning stress — for both of you.
5. Pack a Toddler Backpack and Bento Box Lunch
Your preschooler doesn’t need much — but having their own school gear helps them feel confident and prepared. Choose a lightweight toddler backpack with adjustable straps, and let your child help pack it with:
A change of clothes
A water bottle
A small comfort item (like a plush toy or blanket)
For lunch, pack healthy snacks and meals in a bento lunch box made for toddlers . The separated compartments make it easier (and more fun!) for kids to eat independently.
Pro tip: Label everything with your child’s name — including backpack, clothes, and containers.
Bonus: Tips for Managing Your Own First-Day Emotions
Let’s be real — it’s not just the kids who get emotional. As a parent, it’s totally normal to feel anxious or tearful. Try:
Talking to other parents who’ve been through it
Writing your child a short note to include in their lunch
Planning a coffee or walk after drop-off to decompress
You’ve got this — and so does your kid.
Final Thoughts: Make the First Day of Preschool a Positive Experience
With the right prep, the first day of preschool doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By building routines, talking positively about school, and packing the right essentials, you’re setting your toddler up for success.
Remember: confidence comes from feeling prepared — and from knowing their grown-up believes in them.
